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It’s Your Fault: My Journey through Back Pain, a Teenager and Self-Discovery

When perpetual motion leads to perpetual pain, life can get a little funny.

It's Your FaultIt’s Your Fault: My Journey through Back Pain, a Teenager and Self-Discovery  chronicles Wendy Coblentz’s eight-year odyssey to find a cure for her back pain caused by an “S&M” yoga class (it’s not what you think) injury.

The author takes the reader on a wild and seriously funny ride through the Bay Area’s mainstream medical community as she experiments with epidurals, physical therapy, and other conventional procedures. When her pain doesn’t improve, she moves on to the universe of alternative healing with Interconnection Bodywork, a proselytizing Jewish yoga teacher, French maritime pine bark, and more.

Meanwhile, her teenage son is using the trunk of his car as a storage unit for strawberry-flavored vodka, sneaking out of the house at night, and getting caught with smoking paraphernalia on Earth Day.

From traditional stretches and medications through acupuncture, herbs, and way too many people trying to tell her to “visualize,” Wendy realizes that her only way through the physical pain— as well as the pain of dealing with a rebellious teen— ­­­is to keep moving, even if that means regularly sinking to the floor, no matter when or where.

As Wendy’s desperation mounts, she discovers a tool that teaches her to trust her own instincts and learns that trying to find a solution often aggravates the problem. Her newly-found awareness opens a door as she learns how to deal with back pain and embrace her family.

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Praise for It’s Your Fault

“Wendy Coblentz writes about her chronic pain with great imagery … her sense of humor makes [the] medicine go down easier.”

—Jennette Fulda, author of Chocolate & Vicodin:
My Quest for Relief from the Headache that Wouldn’t Go Away


“In her fresh and witty It’s Your Fault [Coblentz] provides [a laugh and a skewed sense of reality]. Discover the Zen of Whatever…”

—Cynthia Toussaint, Founder/Spokeswoman of For Grace;
author of Battle for Grace: A Memoir of Pain, Redemption and Impossible Love


[It’s Your Fault] tells a story of a whole person … Anyone navigating the perplexing, never-ending maze of traditional and ‘alternative’ medicine for pain relief will relate to the author’s frustrations and wry observations, and be inspired by her hard-gained wisdom.”

— Paula Kamen, author of All in My Head: An Epic Quest to Cure an Unrelenting,
Totally Unreasonable, and Only Slightly Enlightening Headache


“Wendy … perfectly illustrates the importance of working with capable physicians and therapists, while illuminating the difficulties of being prodded by so-called experts, tried by temperamental teenagers, and above all not trusting yourself in knowing which way to turn.”

—Marsha J. Bluto, M.D., Fellow of the American Academy of
Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation


It’s Your Fault resonate[s] with thousands of individuals who have searched for healing and who have experienced frustrations and hopes along the way.”

—Owen M. Wolkowitz, M.D., Professor of Psychiatry, UCSF School of Medicine and
Director, Psychopharmacology Assessment Clinic, Langley Porter Psychiatric Institute


“Reporting that I liked Wendy Coblentz’s memoir It’s Your Fault only begins to do justice to her … good-humored journey through the trials [of ] back pain.”

—George I. Lister, Director, Northern California Center for the Alexander Technique


“[Coblentz’s] experience, chronicled with humor and self-inquiry, highlights key questions each of us will face when … our expectations and need for successful treatment are unmet.”

—Jeff Draisin, M.D., Institute for Health & Healing,
California Pacific Medical Center, Sutter Pacific Medical Foundation


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